r/vaginismus. • 4 mo. ago. Psychological-Wash-2. Why is vaginismus always implied to be the sufferer's fault? Support/Advice. I went years without ever inserting anything up my …This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about …YES IT IS WORTH IT. I spent 2 years doing no dialators with no improvement and then fixed my vaginismus in like 2 months of going to pt. This and mental health therapy were the keys. It is wild how helpful pelvic floor PT is. I kick myself for waiting so long…. If money is an issue I would honestly at least do a couple of sessions (3-5) with ...I remember freaking out when I learned the 8-week scan was going to be transvaginal — especially since I had to get it done at a different doctor's office. But my OB is the bomb, and she is the same person I had been seeing for my vaginismus pre-pregnancy; so she just stuck a note in my file telling the doctors to do an abdominal ultrasound, and told me to make sure my bladder was full ...Vaginismus is a type of sexual dysfunction. It occurs when the vaginal muscles involuntarily or persistently contract. While it doesn’t interfere with sexual …This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Your husband is not incompetent. He feels incompetent. Ejaculating inside of a woman is a primal need for most men and being denied it greatly affects their self perception and confidence directly. He is being honest and frank with you. Yes, it isn't your fault, but his situation is as real and valid as yours.Vaginismus is the involuntary tightening of pelvic floor muscles that surround the vagina; this can make penetration very painful, if not impossible. It may prevent people from using tampons or...Vaginismus is when your vaginal muscles tense up and become so tight that it just can't release any stress or tension, causing pain in the pelvic area and pain during sex. Also fear and anxiety of sex because of the trauma. I'm coming here to seek support as I am a survivor of rape from childhood by the person who was my first… Had PIV for the first time…. I don’t really feel much excitement or anything for that matter. I hooked up with a guy and before going to his house I told him about my issue. He had like a classic reaction of “don’t worry about it, it won’t be an issue with me” attitude, which made me feel eh. Honestly I don’t even know why I went ... This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...YES IT IS WORTH IT. I spent 2 years doing no dialators with no improvement and then fixed my vaginismus in like 2 months of going to pt. This and mental health therapy were the keys. It is wild how helpful pelvic floor PT is. I kick myself for waiting so long…. If money is an issue I would honestly at least do a couple of sessions (3-5) with ...I'm sorry you had this experience- I promise you that there are gynecologists out there who have a more informed and compassionate approach to vaginismus. Finding them is another story... what if you were to call local private practice pelvic PTs to ask what gynecologists refer to them the most frequently? These would be your people.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...My heart breaks for you. I found out I have vaginismus on my wedding night, after “saving myself” for the epic married sex life they promised us. It led to an extremely rocky road of pain, infidelity, near-divorce, and so much therapy. A middle finger to purity culture, for both you and I, and so many others 🖕. 4.Feeling guilty and embarrassed. I’m mostly a lesbian— I say mostly because recently I was in the trenches and met a guy that was incredibly sweet and so I thought to myself “hmm I’ve had sex with cis men before, I’m kinda down.”. We both are visiting family for the holidays so we got a hotel room. I was p wet and 3 fingers fit etc ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ... -vaginismus is usually helped through a combo of: therapy to talk about possible causes (some people have it due to trauma) and the overall experience, pelvic floor therapy, and dilators. -it often takes a long time of doing this combo or a version of it to see any progress. One of my obsessions is a fear of pain/ being hurt. I can’t say definitively but I personally have drawn a connection between the two disorders. I have both! I think they may be connected, because mine was super severe. When I got lexapro for my ocd and my vaginismus, they both got way better. I can definitely tell you that the more mentally ...Okay so I just started attempting PIV a few weeks ago after like years of no PIV. I'm a 22 y/o with mild to moderate primary vaginismus. To prepare for it, I started using dilators, sublingual CBD, the Foria Arousal Oil, cbd lube and just recently tried the Foria CBD suppositories. Keep in mind that all of these things have been a substantial ...hey! i did some vaginismus treatment without dilators. granted, i was working with a physical therapist who specialized in pelvic floor stuff. but she showed me some stretches that helped relax my pelvic floor. magnesium is an otc supplement that also helped me relax my muscles, though it stopped working for that when i was taking it daily for a while, but thats just me. id recommend looking ...Summary. Vaginismus is a condition involving a muscle spasm in the pelvic floor muscles. The term vaginismus is less commonly used alone. Instead, the DSM-5 classifies the condition under...3. dropsinariver. • 2 yr. ago. I couldn't do a pap smear at first. It was a pretty terrible experience. After some practice (before I got my dilators, but used fingers, etc) and a diagnosis, I did get a pap! I talked to my doctor about my concerns, and she made sure to get a child size speculum and used a lot of lube.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ... Had PIV for the first time…. I don’t really feel much excitement or anything for that matter. I hooked up with a guy and before going to his house I told him about my issue. He had like a classic reaction of “don’t worry about it, it won’t be an issue with me” attitude, which made me feel eh. Honestly I don’t even know why I went ... This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …Create a ritual around exercising and try and spend at least 30 minutes a day on it. Try piggybacking this ritual with a different ritual that you already have. Before inserting the dilator tap around the vulva area with the dilator until the first tension slowly goes down.Update to on vaginismus research that was previously posted on this subreddit. A few years ago I had posted in this subreddit group to interview participants for ethics approved research conducted through Western Sydney University to understand and improve help-seeking for vaginismus. The link to the original post is at the end.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …Vaginismus can be caused by many things, which can include anxiety, sexual abuse, injury, STD/STIs, surgery, pregnancy, or childbirth. Sometimes no particular cause can be pinpointed; some people are unaware they even have vaginismus, until they try to have sex for the first time.I had an initial exam where she examined my pelvic floor muscles with a finger and had me do some movements while she felt around (while I was laying down). And then she had me stand up and examined my hips, back, and knees. My vaginismus was partially caused by weak muscles in my hips and back, and hypermobility.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Well, first off it's way more common than anyone admits so you're not alone in that. That's also what this community is for in part. I would begin by asking your doctor—if you trust them—or doing some research on both vaginismus and hypertonic pelvic floor as they're often used interchangeably by different professionals for the same condition.May 30, 2020 ... 45 votes, 17 comments. 31K subscribers in the vaginismus community. This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. YES IT IS WORTH IT. I spent 2 years doing no dialators with no improvement and then fixed my vaginismus in like 2 months of going to pt. This and mental health therapy were the keys. It is wild how helpful pelvic floor PT is. I kick myself for waiting so long…. If money is an issue I would honestly at least do a couple of sessions (3-5) with ... vaginismus and questioning. NSFW VENT: so i struggle with vaginismus, and boy oh boy it’s very difficult. every time i masturbate (which is a lot, i grew up with unrestricted access to the internet and an obsession with smut fanfiction) it hurts and reminds me of the fact that i can’t genuinely feel good. it’s very possible this is due to ...It’s hard to stay motivated. I’ve been trying to deal with my vaginismus for 5 months and it’s been really hard. The progress I’ve made has been so slow. I went from not being able to insert anything, to almost 1 full finger by myself. But I feel like the progress has just gone stagnant from there. Dilators hurt too much and I can’t ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing …It's made a huge difference in relaxing my muscles enough to do internal work and dilator training. I have a daily yoga practice as well, but in terms of pelvic floor-specific stuff I do deep breathing in certain positions, directing my breath "into" my pelvis. So when you inhale your vagina expands and vice versa.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus seems to actually be a yeast infection. Success. hello it seems that my so thought vaginismus is actually a yeast infection I had burning pain at the entrance and uretha but almost no other symptoms which could be connected to a yeast infection… the pain always got worse shortly before i got my period I even told my obgyn about the ...2. 579red. • 3 yr. ago. Bought it, tried it once. It felt a bit better but I should try again and come back to tell you since the vulva part felt more aroused, yes, but to say my vagina felt more relaxed, not sure. The smell is perfectly fine, only thing it's …Using dilators. 20s something virgin. I recently got a 5 piece dilator set. Tampons and toys have always hurt so I thought I may as well try. The first two went in really easily with lube. I'm pretty surprised given my experience with toys and tampons. I have tried Dilator 1 and 2 twice in the late few days and I can't feel anything with them in.InvestorPlace - Stock Market News, Stock Advice & Trading Tips It’s still a tough environment for investors long Reddit penny stocks. A... InvestorPlace - Stock Market N...Mar 23, 2023 ... OUCH. It's like the... "ring" of muscle there (idk what its called- I guess if you're being crude, the "hole" part, or "opening&qu...There's selfish guys and unselfish guys out there, seems you've just met the first type. Could happen to anyone, vaginismus or not. Not being into anal is totally fine, for any reason whatsoever. If you don't like the idea you don't like it. If a guy asks if you like anal you say no and he might try to persuade you to try it but eventually he ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Just so you know, this condition and pelvic pain in general is actually way more common than you think. 1 in 5 people in North America alone have vaginismus or some other female pelvic disorder. Our society gives a lot of messaging about what's "natural" and what women are supposed to do but it's a crock of patriarchal bullshit most of ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...I think it could be linked to OCD, in the sense that I tense up easily and have lots of stress. I have had both vaginismus, and OCD. Not concurrently though - though I’ve always been a rather stressed and neurotic person, my OCD didn’t properly kick in until around 22, whilst my vaginismus was from around 18-19 and then cleared up. Whilst ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Because your diaphragm pushes down, and your abdominal organs have to push out. I try to visualize, instead of the organs going out, the organs going down, pressing against the pelvic floor. It kind of feels like pushing out a bowel movement, but across your whole pelvic floor, not just the anus portion. Disastrous-Data-4114.Also something that helps me relax is to do some reps of tensing and relaxing my nearby muscles. Clenching the butt muscles for a second or two, releasing. Do that a few times. My therapist will also lay he hand on my inner thigh near my knee and gently push down, and have me resist her, then relax. Do that a few times.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...It's made a huge difference in relaxing my muscles enough to do internal work and dilator training. I have a daily yoga practice as well, but in terms of pelvic floor-specific stuff I do deep breathing in certain positions, directing my breath "into" my pelvis. So when you inhale your vagina expands and vice versa.Starting with a basic dilator set is a good choice for beginners. The VuVa™ Dilator Set and the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand are popular options that are relatively affordable. Remember to start with the smallest size and progress gradually as you become more comfortable. I like my Soul Source ones! I use Hope&her dilators.vaginismus and questioning. NSFW VENT: so i struggle with vaginismus, and boy oh boy it's very difficult. every time i masturbate (which is a lot, i grew up with unrestricted access to the internet and an obsession with smut fanfiction) it hurts and reminds me of the fact that i can't genuinely feel good. it's very possible this is due to ...Step 2 was the in-person psychological evaluation regarding sex and then they take you to a room to look at your vagina to qualify the severity of the vaginismus. From there you set up appointments to start on dilation which is basically a kit of smaller to extra large dilators that gradually stretch the vagina muscle and make it so your mind ...Nov 15, 2021. Your Body. painful sex. Medically reviewed by Dr. Robin Faye. Do you ever feel like you're "hitting a wall" when you try to insert something into your vagina? If so, you're not put together wrong. You may just have vaginismus, a condition that causes the vaginal muscles to automatically tighten in anticipation of vaginal penetration.Starting with a basic dilator set is a good choice for beginners. The VuVa™ Dilator Set and the Intimate Rose Pelvic Wand are popular options that are relatively affordable. Remember to start with the smallest size and progress gradually as you become more comfortable. I like my Soul Source ones! I use Hope&her dilators.Aug 21, 2023 ... Feeling unsupported, embarrassed, & scared. · Go to pelvic floor PT. If you have one in your area, they were way more knowledgeable than my ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Feb 3, 2024 ... Not everyone who was sexually assaulted develops vaginismus and not everyone who has vaginismus has it as a result of sexual assault. But it can ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...i feel so bad and ashamed. Vent. so basically i had a date last thursday to have a drink with a guy (first time we met), and then i went to his house on saturday evening (i spent the night there). we had sex but without penetration since, as usual, it didn’t work for me. he didn’t question it or anything, didn’t put any pressure and was ...Reddit announced today that users can now search comments within a post on desktop, iOS and Android. Reddit announced today that users can now search comments within a post on desk...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus seems to actually be a yeast infection. Success. hello it seems that my so thought vaginismus is actually a yeast infection I had burning pain at the entrance and uretha but almost no other symptoms which could be connected to a yeast infection… the pain always got worse shortly before i got my period I even told my obgyn about the ...Vaginismus is a sensitive medical condition that impacts everyone in different ways. If someone is asking a question to learn more (or sharing a personal experience), we encourage compassionate responses to reach a better understanding.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus is an involuntary tensing of the vagina. People experience it at the start of sex, while inserting a tampon or while getting a pelvic exam. Vaginismus can make intercourse painful (dyspareunia). Kegels, vaginal dilators and cognitive behavioral therapy (CBT) can help relax muscles and stop spasms. Have empathy for the person who is hurting now, which is you. Vaginismus has made us all feel so helpless and sad. These feelings just come with the territory. I know how frustrating it can be to have your progress hindered due to the virus.. Anything in general that hinders your progress will be so frustrating. This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Your husband is not incompetent. He feels incompetent. Ejaculating inside of a woman is a primal need for most men and being denied it greatly affects their self perception and confidence directly. He is being honest and frank with you. Yes, it isn’t your fault, but his situation is as real and valid as yours.Yes, I've had primary vaginismus for probably my whole life, but only began noticing when I started getting curious about my body around puberty. I think two traumas caused it, one being a physical sexual trauma that I don't fully remember and the other being toxic religious shame that was fed to me for two decades. Honestly it's pretty crushing.Vaginismus isn't directed related to sexual trauma. Painful UTIs, anxiety around sex or pregnancy, anxiety in general, posture - all of those are factors that may contribute, and anxiety, pushing through pain, and shame may worsen the symptoms. 2. Reply.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Bad pap smear experience. Think I’m finally coming to terms that I might have vaginismus after what I can only describe as a terrible first Pap smear experience. For full disclosure, I’m 25 and my vagina has truly been a no-go zone my whole life. I’ve never even put a finger in there, and have never successfully been able to put a tampon ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...I’m a trans man (FtM) and I’m pretty sure I have vaginismus. There’s a nice history of sexual assault to top the lovely bout of dysphoria about my genitals. Dilation is not going well at all. I can get one knuckle deep, but then it starts hurting. I get lightheaded just looking at the thing and a kegel with a finger in made me want to puke.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus isn't directed related to sexual trauma. Painful UTIs, anxiety around sex or pregnancy, anxiety in general, posture - all of those are factors that may contribute, and anxiety, pushing through pain, and shame may worsen the symptoms. 2. Reply.
Klutzy_Reason5769. I'm late to this but I'm trans with vaginismus! And part of it was due to dysphoria. When I saw a therapist who was clued in on LGBT people, she told me to just look at my vagina with a mirror first and to slowly introduce touching, and write about how I felt each time (not just emotions but where the emotions were in my body ... . Ah history skyblock
Finally went to a gynaecologist and it was a good experience. Success. So I (20) have never been able to use tampons and never even got a finger into my vagina. It didn't really bother me that much until I recently got a boyfriend. Of course I was scared that PIV might hurt but I kind of hoped that this wasn't the case with sex (still a virgin).There is a third option and that is you didn't use enough lube. Pinching and resistance seems like a different thing than vaginismus which is usually characterized by muscle spasms but it's possible. The best thing you can do is go to a gynecologist and get an exam. Try to search reviews for people specifically mentioning vaginismus because ...I made a post a few months back about my experience with vaginismus shortly (9 weeks postpartum) after giving birth: Experience With Vaginismus Post-Birth I'm now a little over 9 months postpartum. I confirmed that the pain that I felt the first few times I had sex postpartum was caused by micro-tears as that pain completely went away shortly ...This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Virgin and nervous. Support/Advice. I'm getting married in like three weeks and neither my partner nor I have had good old penis-in-vagina sex yet. However, we recently tried digital penetration and it hurt SO MUCH. Yes, I was aroused (very). Yes, I was in a comfortable position. However, I have endometriosis and my vagina has not been a fan ... For the first time, I inserted and used it like a 'normal' person! Together, these two things helped me achieve something doctors from multiple countries could not: I cured my vaginismus. The vagi-wave trained my vagina not to automatically tense up every time penetration was attempted. The menstrual cup made me more familiar and comfortable ... This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...We've used a small amount of lube with 2% lidocaine previously with good results. Applied to the vagina about 5 minutes prior to PIV it helped a lot with the pain & didn't really reduce the sensation (speaking as the guy! Just here to understand my GF's experience better). Good luck - happy to answer any further questions you have.A cautionary note - a lot of pelvic floor yoga can focus on strengthening the pelvic floor. This is often unhelpful to vaginismus sufferers, who have hypertonic (overly tight) pelvic floor videos. If you do go down this route look for routines that help with pelvic floor relaxation. Two poses that have been good for me are child's pose (wide ...Dec 11, 2022 ... As u/Ybuzz says, no matter what mental starte you are in, if you have some trauma that caused your vaginismus, when in certain situations you ...i’m so ashamed. i was diagnosed with vaginismus back in february but started showing symptoms at the age of 16 when i got my first vibrator. i remember i was scared shitless to insert it and it hurt so much. eventually i noticed i have severe pelvic pain and nobody seemed to care when i told them how bad it was.This subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Posted by u/NoPaleontologist4546 - 18 votes and 15 commentsThis subreddit is for those who suffer or have suffered from vaginismus. We are a community offering support, advice, laughs, and a haven when you need to talk about the struggles. . Partners and friends of vaginismus sufferers are welcome to join in the discussions, but please keep in mind this is first and foremost a place for those dealing ...Vaginismus is currently defined as an involuntary vaginal muscle spasm interfering with sexual intercourse that is relatively easy to diagnose and treat. As a …What happens with vaginismus is that the pelvic floor muscles involuntary contract and "tighten up" when something is about to be inserted, making it painful or impossible to insert. This could be because of fear, because you're nervous, generally stressed, it could be because of sexual or medical trauma, trauma from purity culture, birth trauma etc..